Life if Full of Surprises and Not all of Them Are Fun

I hate that I keep getting reminded how fragile life is and how "human" we are. I was in Marysville for a deposition yesterday. At the end of the Dep, the attorney announced that he did not know if he would be continuing after Friday. He was going in for a biopsy of a brain tumor in his left frontal lobe.

It was apparent that he had not told his client and things were a bit tense. When I arrived home I sent the following E-Mail.


Things I have learned that help me survive.

1. You need a notebook to keep the massive amounts of papers they throw at your in the effort for full disclosure.
2. You need a person to call and be in charge of managing "help".
3. When people asks your wife what she needs, she needs someone to do the laundry, clean the house, do the shopping and water the yard ........... Make a list of all the things that get done in a week and in the notebook and give out assignments. People are parallelized, they want to help but not be intrusive so a ready list helps everyone.
4. Put someone in charge of the taking and passing messages and start a blog so the info can be available.
5. Everyone is spiritual. It comes in lots of forms and you will find that lots of people are pulling for you. Good energy is good energy.
6. Zofran- it will be your friend if you have chemo.
7. Dry cereal if you have radiation.
8. Hats
9 Sunscreen
10. A subscription to NetFlix. Lucy and Twilight Zone are wonderful to watch.

The knowledge that what will be will be. Worry about the things you can change.

I offer my support in anyway possible. If your wife is going nuts please call. Now I know that she won't have the strength or time or ability to call. -See, the first person that wants to help.

It is so frustrating to be outside of the situation and not be able to effectuate any change. It is so hard to see the pain in others and know only time can make a difference.